We receive too many messages attempting to convince us we are not enough. Our embodied experiences are judged, diminished, gaslighted into believing birthing bodies should show up in particular ways--when they don't, we lose membership to a club we never wanted to belong to anyway.
The marginal who have swallowed whole not useful messages aid in maintaining the status quo. Birth is not business as usual and shouldn't be--we need to embrace the pregnant pause; to honor the moment.
Being a birth companion in this current ecosystem of controlling, judging, handling of bodies means to advocate for the complex humanity of the people involved in bringing a new being into existence. It means observing and unpacking the messages we have swallowed.
How useful can we be to a birthing person if our own thinking gets in their way?